Esther Perel wrote in the New York Times this week that love is not a feeling, she said: “Love is an encounter.”

It’s not a checklist or a compatibility score. So when did we stop encountering each other? When did we start optimising for perfection instead of showing up for connection? Maria had Dr Ray O’Neill on Life Unfiltered to discuss how we can find and keep love wholesome and transactional.

You can find out about Ray’s practice at http://machna.ie